Nothing in life will shape you more than the people who surround you and the books you read.
The Men’s Fraternity at my church is currently working through a series called “Authentic Manhood.”
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If you’re a men’s small group leader I’d highly recommend that you check it out.
This past week’s lesson was very powerful and I’ve been excited to share it.
One of the things I’m learning is that personal and spiritual growth always happens in the context of meaningful relationships.
You and I were designed to live life in community and to sharpen one another (Proverbs 27:17).
Here are the 3 types of relationships that you MUST develop if you want to be effective and experience the most growth.
The Encouraging Mentor.
Everyone needs a Paul in their life.
This is a person of great wisdom and knowledge. An individual who is willing to share their life experiences in order to help you grow.
Encouraging mentors help you harness vision, hold you accountable, and push you to take the next step.
Being under the authority of wise counsel can’t be overstated.
Proverbs 11:14 says that with counsel, there is safety.
Who are you meeting with on a regular basis and allowing to pour into your life?
The Side-by-Side Teammate.
Everyone needs a Barnabas in their life.
This is a person with whom you have a spoken or unspoken loyalty.
Side-by-side teammates love you unconditionally and help you walk through rough patches in your life.
These aren’t simply social media relationships and casual acquaintances.
These are life-long, character-shaping, burden sharing relationships–people you can confide in.
When you’re alone, you can talk yourself into anything. Side-by-side teammates hold you accountable and help you stay on the right path.
The Eager Protégé.
Everyone needs a Timothy in their life.
One of the main components of personal and spiritual growth is learning to develop others.
Regardless of your stage of life, their is always someone that is eager to learn from you.
Everyone has a unique story and unique experiences. Leverage your story to help develop and bless others.
Right now, who are you investing in on a regular basis?
Here’s a few quick tips that’ll help you develop meaningful relationships.
- Be loyal. Always keep your word and aim to do your best.
- Learn how to ask good questions and take a genuine interest in the success of others.
- Be transparent and truthful. This might even mean being vulnerable at times.
- Always demonstrate integrity.
- Make yourself available.
Proverbs 13:20 sums it up best:
Walk with the wise and become wise;
associate with fools and get in trouble.